Ah, romance! It used to be so simple, didn’t it? Nowadays it’s all done on smartphones with emojis instead of actual words. But the times have moved on, and so should you. Here are 6 old-fashioned dating rules that you should strike from your playbook forever.
This is a big one. If we learned anything from a century’s worth of movies, TV shows, books, and pop music, it’s that a man needs to be persistent. Eventually, he’ll wear down the other person’s resistance, possibly with a big romantic gesture. The thing is, the culture has shifted. “No means no” is a big deal these days. So if someone says no to your advances, accept it and move on.
Talk about old-fashioned dating rules! Why exactly do men need to be the ones who lead this particular dance? Women are equally capable of asking men on dates (or even proposing marriage). Ladies, you don’t need to wait for him to make the first move. We’re not getting any younger here.
The “third date” rule is a double-edged sword. On the one hand, it means that anyone who gets intimate before then rushed into things. On the other, it implies that sex is all but guaranteed on that date. Who needs all that judgment and pressure? You’re both adults, so as long as you’re honest with each other about what you want, it’s all good.
Change is scary. When online dating was new, it seemed like a thing that only strange or desperate people would try. But now it’s so common that it’s weirder not to be on Match.com or Tinder. Of course, you should exercise common sense when meeting someone online. Don’t give them your home address, and the first time you meet, choose a public place and let a friend know where you’re headed. Better safe than sorry, right?
Here’s the thing about the standard “dinner and a movie” first date. It’s a big commitment. You’re agreeing to spend at least 3 hours together—probably more—and a fair amount of money on tickets, movie snacks, and meals. You can’t talk during the movie anyway! Instead, choose an activity you both enjoy.
Look, just be honest and open about what you want. Playing games and following old-fashioned dating rules won’t get you anywhere. Waiting to call back so you don’t seem too eager? Life is short! Sticking with someone you don’t really like just so you’re not alone? You’re better off without the baggage! Playing it cool or following someone else’s rules? Just be yourself!
